I was talking with a woman and she wondered out loud if she would ever get married.
I asked her what seemed to be a natural question back. Did she want to get married?
She paused for a moment and responded with – “I don’t know.”
I paused for a moment and then responded. “If you want to get married you probably will. If you don’t want you probably won’t. It is your choice.”
She looked at me with a slightly amazed look in her eyes as she said “Ummm, sure…..”
It became very clear to me that she didn’t really consider her future marital status within her control.
How much is within our control but because we are unable/unwilling to make a decision, it gets left up to chance or becomes someone else’s decision?